ARE YOU PUTTING OFF ONLINE DATING? TEN COMMON EXCUSES FOR NOT DATING AND HOW TO TURN IT AROUND
Get
back out there your friends keep telling you … It’s so much easier
said than done isn’t it? There is always a good reason for putting
things off just a little bit longer. Maybe next week, maybe next year, maybe never!
If you’re making excuses to put off dating, now’s the time to take the plunge. After all, what have you got to lose?
I’ll do it when the kids are older
OK, how much older? Anyone would be wary of starting out dating again with children to consider. It’s natural to be concerned
about bringing someone new in to their lives, particularly if there
has been a difficult break up with their other parent. But most
children will
be happy to see you happy again. If your kids are stopping you moving
on with your life, ask yourself; Is it really them or are you using
them as an excuse. We have lots of advice for anyone who is dating as a single parent, remember you’re definitely not alone.
I’m not over my ex
Well,
it can be very difficult to move on after the break up of a long term
or serious relationship. But even if you don’t feel able to
commit to someone new, are you really not ready just to meet new
people? Why not give online dating try and give yourself a chance.
Don’t compare everyone
you meet to your ex, appreciate people for who they are. You never
know, someone may be waiting to help you get over your ex forever.
Who would want me?
Why
would anyone not want you? There is someone out there for all of us.
Be honest about who you are and what you want out of your life.
Remember
to be positive about what makes you special and don’t put yourself
down. If you’re planning online dating, take a look at our articles on
writing your personal for lots of ideas and help. Your ideal partner
may be looking for you right now!
What if it goes wrong?
If
a relationship doesn’t work out, it can be a painful process to go
through. However, we’ve all head the old saying “It is better to
have loved and lost than never loved at all” and besides, what if it
goes right? You may be worried about something that isn’t going to
happen to you. There’s only one way to find out!
When I’ve lost some weight
This includes anything that says you’re not good enough to be happy
today. We are all unique and special and worthy of being loved.
OK, so you may want to lose a few pounds and get a little fitter, so
go ahead. Just don’t put life on hold in the meantime. If you do lack
confidence about
how you look, make sure you give yourself a boost by perhaps updating
your hair or make-up to be a little more flattering, or treating
yourself to a new outfit that really makes you look and feel great.
I’ll just wait and see if anyone turns up
Well, you could be lucky but not many of us meet the partner of our dreams by waiting for them to knock on our front
door. By starting out on online dating, you’re simply allowing
yourself to meet a larger circle of people and increasing your chances
of finding your
ideal mate. When you’re doing everything you can and having fun in the
process, someone will turn up just when you’re least expecting them.
I can’t handle being rejected
Many people feel that online dating could be demoralising as you may well find that you are in contact with several people who
will chose to take things no further than an initial date or a few
emails. This isn’t rejection, its honesty. You will also feel that you
do not want
a relationship with many of the people you contact, any more than you
would with everyone in the supermarket on a Saturday afternoon! It’s
not a reflection on you or your worth, just that this isn’t the person for you.
I don’t have time
Really?
You have no time to find someone to spend the rest of your life with?
You must have a very exciting life for everything in it to
be more important! Obviously there are some things that have to be
done but surely your happiness should take some priority in your life.
Online dating is dangerous
There are some risks associated with online dating but there are
risks associated with meeting anyone anywhere. There are also plenty
of ways to minimise personal risk. Check out the advice in online
dating safety to find the best ways to keep yourself and your loved
ones safe. But remember, most people are genuine, so after you’ve
taken all sensible precautions, relax and have fun.
There’s always the cat to keep me company
Yes, of course. But the conversation is limited.
OK,
do you still have a good reason not to try online dating? Or is it
just another excuse. Give it a go, you never know where it may lead!
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